Try a Clich

If you dismiss things immediately if they sound like a cliche, you might be missing some good stuff. Cliches are simply “unoriginal ideas” and that’s fine. There are some good ideas that have been floating around for a while. Try this one on: “Be grateful for what you have.” Yawn, eye-roll, dismiss. Try it. Write down 5 to 7 things you’re glad about every night before you go to sleep for one week. Read all the entries each night. See what happens. Hint: If you can’t think of things you’re grateful for, try thinking about the things you don’t want that you don’t have. It’s best to do right before you turn out the light to go to sleep. Consider what you usually think about as you fall asleep? An assortment of worries or concerns, slights from difficult co workers, things you need to remember… Negativity and chaos, really. If you purposefully inject the positive into your brain think the movie The Matrix without the big machine and the pain,then the negative worries and concerns get bumped out. The positive isn’t fluff. It’s real things in your life that you’re actually grateful for, you just tend not to notice. We tend to have a pretty tight focus on what’s wrong with our lives, and ourselves for that matter. With that tight a focus, you’re really missing the big picture. Sometimes our minds need a manual focus adjustment to see the real picture. Try it out and let me know what you notice.



Just try it out...



Feelings follow Behavior

Our behavior and actions seem to be our first priority to every individual in the younger generation, I have heard the older generation say that the younger generation fails to think before we act. We do not examine and then plan, we just plan. We rather go forth and do. I don’t think that this always a bad quality, sometimes ceasing the moment is best way to get desired results. However, most of the time it would be wiser to think about our behavior and actions before we actually act on it. Living life to its fullest does not always mean not planning and preparing. Living life means making the best out of life with as few regrets as possible. When I do something, I want to feel proud and that I have accomplished something. I don’t want to feel any regret that is why I always have a valid reason to do anything so that I will not regret in whatever results maybe.



think-feel-and do it



Our behavior, actions and words determine the feeling we have thereafter. If you do not have that chocolate you are craving for, your feelings would be the opposite. You might feel proud of yourself for resisting the chocolate craving or you might regret not spoiling yourself and satisfying your sweet tooth after all, we all do go to gym on a daily basis. It is important to remember that our behavior do not only determine our own feelings, but those of the people around us as well. And their feelings will determine their follow up behavior which create new feelings for them and people around them, determining more behaviors, leading to more feelings. It is usually the impulsive behaviors that lead to bad feelings afterwards as we didn’t think about what we were doing like our parents engraved in our brains.

It is better to practice a little than talk a lot

It is better to practice a little than talk a lot, talking a lot is just a lot of time when they do not practice. Talking a lot does not help but practicicing does help. When they practice it is where by they will see if they know something or they do not other than talking a lot but doing nothing. Talking a lot without practicing is really not good because they will not even know if they can do it something if they just keep talking about doing it but they do not actually practice it.

stop talking,start doing

Practice makes perfect anyway and talking makes nothing. It is really better to practice a little than talking a lot, even if it is little that they have practiced it is better than talking a lot but doing nothing. Usually people who talk a lot hardly get something I done because all they do is to talk and talk right through and the one is keeping quiet is the one who makes things happen for real. It is better to just do what they think or to do the little they can do than keep explaining them that they can not do it and trying to make people understand what they can not do it. It is really better to try. Practice makes perfect.

wedding cake in the middle of the road

Sometimes one thinks they have got that one person tells you all the sweet words every time and they think they are the ones for them of which they are not theirs until they say I do, they can lose them anytime of the day and even on the day of wedding they can still lose them. When they say Honey, I love you so much! I want to be with you forever. You mean more than the world to me. The thought of losing you would be too much for my mind to imagine. I want to have children with you. I want anniversaries and birthdays and Christmases and my entire life spent with you.

 I am on my knees, asking if you will marry me. The wedding will be so beautiful. Your parents and mine, all our relatives together, but most of all us together as one. When you think they love you so much does not mean they are yours forever. Belinda and Maria broke up on the day before the wedding day, Belinda was on her way from fetching the wedding cake he met her fiancé kissing with another woman in the car while she is driving home, she thrown the cake in the middle of the road and canceled everything. There had no wedding anymore.

It is a bad idea to lie to yourself

It is a bad idea to lie to yourself,yes indeed lying to youself is really a stupid  thing that one can ever do.lying to yourself is like lying to omeneone who knows the truth even more than you,it is like trying to convince them with something that is not true of which they already know the truth because no one knows you better than yourself.  Although lying to someone can be enjoyable,easy and fun because they do not know the truth about what you are lying about but one is still fooling around because even if you are  lying to someone else you are still lying to youself because you are the one who knows the truth after all. And after all you are not lying to them but you.

be truthful

The worst thing about a lie, you have to deal with the consequences of it. At some point, lies catch up to you and you have to tell the truth. At this point nobody believes you. Lying to yourself is the worst thing one can do because concsious is still going to keep reminding you about the truth other than the lies that you tell yourself. At some point it is better to lie to other people than lying to yourself.it is better to tell lies to somelse and keep the truth inside yourself because they have nothing to do with your lief either way,you do not have to be honest to them but to yourself.

The sound of one hand clapping

The sound of one hand clapping like working on something bigger alone,something that is supposed to be worked by more than one person,something that needs more power or responsibility if i should say. its like business with one owner,everything needs to be done it is the owner's duty. or for instance in a study group it happens sometimes that all though you are too many many five individuals in a study group but there is only one person concerned and passinate about work then we call it one hand clapping because the group does not work together,its only one erson who is struggling to make things work of which if the group was working together they would get the best mark than they do,now they do not get it because its only one person who is doing the work,it’s the sound of one hand clapping,another hand is not wiling to clap so the sound can not be the same as two hands.

Even in a marriage the same thing occurs,when a husband is really not responsible on the pay day he takes money and go to the tavern to finish spend the money with useless things without doing anything for the house or family,the only money that helps the family is Wife’s salary,that is one hand clapping because the husband that is supposed to support the wife is not supporting her,so it is only wife that is helping the family and  keep everything going of which things would not be the way they should be if the husband was responsible enough because now it’s the sound of one hand clapping,the other hand is not helping or supporting  another one at all.

Not all who wander are lost

Not all who wander are lost, whatever that might try to mean, not all who wander are lost, and there is still ones who are still holding the best thing and still kicking and thinking straight.

                                                   

According to J RR Tolkien All that is gold does not glitter, not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither, deep roots are not reached by the frost. From the ashes a fire shall be woken, a light from the shadows shall spring; renewed shall be blade that was broken, the crownless again shall be king.”

How do you step from the top of a 100-foot pole?

Life is fulled with risks. I would even go as far as to say life is a risk. If you never take any risks in life you will miss out many thngs that you could have won, you would miss out on the thrill of the ride. We fear the unknown because we can not control it. We feel vulnerable and exposed, scared that things might go terribly wrong but we do not thing about the rewards of risking,because most of the time after risking you get rewards because you get what you wanted or you get your dream pursued.

There is a lesson to be learnt in every failure, in every risk we take we have to learn something. Going through life trying to maintain a balance is hard enough. we need to be brave and follow our hearts and  believe that no matter what the outcome, we will come out okay,strong and learned.So how do you step off a 100-foot pole? as for me i would just close my eyes,tell myself to take or accept whatever result i might have from it,take a deep breath and I take a leap of faith,the i start risking. life is all about taking risks either way.

We are what we do

This is so true, we are what we do because you do good things might it be to the community or to anyone  around you everyone respects you and see good person in you just because they know about the good things you do. This saying might also mean that you are what you do in such a way that when you do something good to anyone, you are blessing yourself, the things you have or the rich person you will end up being is caused by the things you did/do to people, they brought you blessings, so now you are a rich man/woman because of want you do to people.

As well as bad things, if you do bad things everyone will know you about that, it does not matter how beautiful and expensive clothes you may wear, people will not see any beauty in you just because they know you bad, they the wrong side of you.

We are afraid of the wrong things

This is so true, we really are afraid of wrong things because wrong things have wrong results as well, everyone is afraid of wrong things, although it depends how wrong the thing is. Sometimes something can be wrong but with no consequences that one not everyone is afraid of.

There are many reasons for being afraid of the wrong things. Doing wrong things have many impacts in our lives. If you used to do wrong things no one can trust you even if you did not do it because everyone knows that you used to do wrong things so once there is something wrong has been done and no one knows who did it, you become the first suspect to everyone. Sometimes wrong things get you in trouble.

Ary Bhushan noted that most of the people are afraid of something. Some are afraid of being blamed in society, some are afraid of death, rejection, and failure. Other gets afraid when they see people in distress and think that they may meet a similar fate.
Whatever it’s we are afraid of let’s us learn not to be afraid of the wrong things. We can learn to live a of life bravery, which will give us enough courage to face our fears and challenges of this World.

Fish falling from the sky

Me personally would refer this sayings as it s just like a blessing it comes from God while you did not do anything to deserve the curtain blessing, most of the time we say that when good things happen to you while you did not do much to deserve them, you did not worked hard for them.  But there is a drama as well about the topic “fish falling from the sky” it’s something once happened.

Plentiful of Fish falling from the sky of Agusan del Sur, Philippines last Friday. Fish falling in the sky were 3 inches long and yellow in color with black spots. About 72 dropped from the sky. The incident still under investigation how the incident happened. Witnessed said after 25 years of living in the area, it is his first time he experienced such incident. Supernatural video explains how this thing happened.

What is the colour of the wind?

This can be considered a meaningless question because wind does not have a color Or, I may consider it as a serious scientific question, in which case we must first consider "what is wind?” Wind is the movement of air molecules. Can air molecules have color? If they have color can they have more than one color? Air molecules are colorless.

However, air often has other molecules mixed in it e.g. smoke. These other molecules often have 'color'. Thus, they impart a color to the mixture of air and smoke. If this mixture is blowing in the wind, then the air may be perceived to have color. Wind doesn't have a color, because the light molecules travel though it east doesn't have a color because it's a word. Words do not have a certain color, but you can change your font.

If I were my boss

If I were my boss I would not learn anything because I do not do anything I just get paid, I would not have to stress because no one gives me instructions and I have no rules to obey. and I would be a friends with my thoughts all the time because boss is always right so my thoughts I would be always right, and mostly I would not have to understand too much like I need to understand  when I have a boss.

when I have a boss I need to understand many things for instance when I take time to do something my boss will say I am slow, when I do not do it I am lazy but when my boss does not do it he is too busy, When I do something without being told I am trying to be smart, When my boss does the same That is initiative, When I please my boss I am apple polishing. When my boss please his boss He's co-operating, When I do well, my boss never remembers When I do wrong, he never forgets,laoughing even if my boss said says something hurts me and only cry when I get home or on my way home, So if I would be my boss I would forget about that drama and too much understanding.

Two people come out of a building and into a story

Two people come out of a building and into a story of man waiting for people coming out of the building, with a piece of cardboard written “hungry, jobless and homeless”. One man reaches into his pocket to get some coins, the other watches with a shocked-face. Few coins come out of the pocket and the troubled man smile and open his hand to receive from the Good Samaritan. In few minutes the troubled man disappears from the eyes of the Good Samaritan and his stunned friend.

Out of curiosity the Good Samaritan ask “why are you shocked” and he answered “why did you give him money”, because he’s hungry and jobless answer the Good Samaritan… The man with no compassion continues “but why doesn’t he have food and job and have both his legs, legs, eyes and ears? Do you know what this man will buy with the money you’ve just given him; we are trying to end the culture of begging in our country and people like you promote is and make these people more lazy and not want to use their brains.

How hard it is to follow instructions

I find it mostly difficult to follow instructions that are subjective. That is the critical part of my brain, Because I become having some questions and want to know why I must do something, I want to understand the terms and conditions, the limitations of the instruction, but primarily I need to know WHY.I find it difficult to follow instructions that are not universally applied even if you try very hard to follow them. I find it very difficult to follow instructions that invade my boundaries, intrude upon my sense of self and privacy.

Following instruction is actually very difficult indeed, irrespective of how old or how young you are, but it is important as well because Sometimes it’s to help you do things right, it’s to control you, It creates a false sense of security in which one simply follows, It creates an acceptance that someone else is in control of your life, that you are not 100% responsible for you – so now you have someone to blame, other than you, if you fail, It creates an excuse “it wasn’t my fault.”  This is only OK if you refuse credit for the good stuff as well I was just following the instructions.

Seriously it seems like it is the hardest thing in the world. You put up signs or have some rules and people just do what they want with no regard for anything. Oh a school zone 20mph let me go 45 because I can and who cares I am so cool I don't have to do what anyone tells me.

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